Limiting Beliefs and the "Legacy Effect"

Do you find yourself showing up in a way that doesn’t feel like you?
Having automatic reactions that later make you cringe?
That might be a legacy effect…

Sometimes the self-protective behaviors you adopt to stay safe
harden into identities that keep you separate or stuck.

You lose or escape the context that
made it necessary to self-protect
but the behaviors remain.

Over time those behaviors become:

⛔ beliefs that hold you back,
⛔ walls that keep you separate,
⛔ dispositions that disconnect you
⛔ reactions that seem automatic but don’t feel like you.

And you start to believe that’s just who you are…
someone who can’t, who isn’t, who shouldn’t.

But that is not who you are. (Identity)
It’s how you kept yourself safe. (Behavior)

When you separate
your identity from your behaviors
you can do two really important things:

𝟏. 𝐓𝐚𝐩 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧

Recognizing that the behaviors
are fear-based makes it easier
to forgive and release them.

𝟐. 𝐁𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞

Accepting that the behavior is not who you are
creates an opportunity to build a new identity
around your conscious desires instead of
your subconscious fears.

Check in with yourself.

If you find yourself doing things that don’t feel like you,
reacting in ways that later make you cringe,
feel a disconnect between who you are
and how you’re showing up,
get curious.

You might be wearing armor you no longer need.


Pic: Full moonrise over Lake Champlain